Archive | Uncategorized RSS feed for this section

Eme’s Army: Fight for Sight

30 Sep

Oli was recently given an amazing opportunity to work with another special needs child on a campaign by a company called Paper Clouds Apparel.

Paper Clouds sells t-shirts, hats, sweatshirts, hoodies, and totes featuring the artwork of special needs children. Oli has her handprint heart on two different t-shirts and a tote that is now available for purchase. She is featured alongside another child named Logan and together they have some incredible things to choose from.

Paper Clouds Apparel employs special needs adults AND they donate 50% of the proceeds to a charity that we choose. We chose Emerie is a little girl who needs our help to get her eye sight back. Please visit and check it out!!

“The Cause (Sep 30 – Oct 13):

Eme’s Army
Eme is 6 years old and she is being robbed of her sight by CRB1-LCA, a very rare genetic disease. Eme’s Army, made up of supporters and volunteers like you, raise awareness of childhood blindness and fight for those like Eme. CRB1-LCA has no treatment. A gene therapy clinical trial is being conducted for RPE65-LCA right now that is working and is giving blind kids like Eme their sight back. By replacing the mutated/broken gene with a good copy of the gene, blind kids can see again. It is a fight against time. If too many of their retinal cells die, the cure in clinical trials will not work. So please join Eme’s Army and help them FIGHT for SIGHT! All money raised by Eme’s Army funds research through the Curing Retinal Blindness Foundation (CRBF). An all volunteer organization, CRBF was co-founded by Emerie & her family to stop CRB1-LCA.” -Quote from

I can’t even begin to describe what this means for Emerie and her family. Imagine having a child go blind and then find out that there may be a way to treat it…it’s beyond incredible.

I would do ANYTHING if there was a way for Oli to see.


I may not be able to help Oli get her vision back, but I can help Emerie in a small way.

What an opportunity. What a privilege it is.

It’s a privilege not only to work with Eme’s Army, but also to work with a company like Paper Clouds Apparel.

What they are doing for the special needs community is remarkable. They are making a difference in the world. They are making it better and more accepting and more “normal” for kiddos like Oli.

That’s something that I am extremely proud to be a part of.

If you can, please visit their website or their facebook page.

Share this campaign with your friends. Let them know that they can help too! I never ask you guys to share anything, but this is important. The more money we raise the better chance Eme has of seeing her family again.
You don’t have to share it from here. Share it from Paper Clouds Apparel. It doesn’t matter how, just tell people about it.

Thank you!

Here are a few of the shirts to choose from:


emes6 (1)





When Facebook Sucks

25 Sep

Well…WTF? Really? ANOTHER person that wants to bash on facebook? Why? Is there a point to this? Is it to hurt my feelings? Is it because they just don’t think about what they’re writing before they hit “post”? Maybe they speak a foreign language and what they typed in their language was super sappy and nice and then facebook messed it up and translated hate. No. That’s probably a little far fetched.


When I started this Oli page back in December of last year I never thought anyone would really be on it. I invited my facebook friends, told my mom about it, and that’s it. The only reason I started the thing was so that I wouldn’t annoy my friends by publishing my blog every day.



Yes. Everyday.

Back then I used to publish a blog post every single day. Back when I was writing Oli’s story. But then I got caught up in the whole facebook page craze. People that I didn’t even know started liking the page and reading the blog. I became more and more afraid of the people that I didn’t know that were reading my words, seeing my pictures….judging my girl.

At least that was my fear.

You know what?

People WEREN’T judging my girl.

People were LOVING her!

So I gained some confidence. I grew bolder. I started posting more, sharing more. I even posted a picture of Oli without her prosthetic eyes in.

Holy crap that scared the daylights out of me!!

But no one told me that it was gross. No one told me that she looked scary or ugly.

You know what people told me?

They told me the truth about Oli. They told me what I already knew.

They told me that she was beautiful no matter what.

They told me that no matter how her eyes looked, she was gorgeous.

They told me that no matter how much she struggled, how much progress she made, how much she didn’t make…that she was perfect.

People just reinforced everything that I had already believed about her.

As time went on and more people found the page, I would feel that fear again in my heart. That fear that stems from the day that Oliana was first born. The day that the doctor looked at me with ice in his heart and blackness in his eyes and announced that my daughter was NEVER going to look like everyone else. When he met my tear filled eyes will a flat dead look in his own and the words “She was born without eyes” rolled off his lips, that fear took hold deep in my chest and has never fully receded.

I’ve learned to deal with the fear. I’ve learned what my own truth is and how to handle situations with other people who may not find Oli as perfect as I do.

But every once in awhile, when I am sitting high up in myself, a single hurtful comment about her sweeps me into one of my lowest, darkest valley’s. It sweeps me to the deepest part where that fear thrives.

Facebook is a strange thing. It’s both wonderful because there are so many people and stories that leave me feeling full of hope, inspiration, and admiration, and it is hateful, hurtful, and awful. Because there are lots of both types of people in the world.

In my everyday life it’s easy to surround myself with love and support. Even going out in public has become less of a traumatic event. When Oli was a baby I used to hide her in her car seat to avoid the stares and the hurtful comments about her eyes.

I’m sensitive. What can I say?

A 6 year old? Not so easy to hide in a car seat.

And I don’t WANT to hide her anymore. Oli has taught me that beauty really does like INSIDE of us and not on the outside. I’ve learned to avoid the stares. I’ve somehow learned to decipher curiosity from the judgments. I KNOW she’s beautiful and that’s all that matters.

On facebook? I can’t just avert my eyes. I can’t unread a comment. I wish I could. I wish that “ban” button came with an “unread and erase from memory” button.

But it doesn’t.

So I get upset.

I get upset, not even with the people who choose to make fun of or hate on ME. I’m an adult. Not everyone is going to like me or agree with me. That part I’m okay with. It stings, but I quickly get over it.

It’s when people start saying hateful things about my daughter that I can’t just get over it.

But here’s the thing… Here’s the truth…

There are SO many people that LOVE Oli. That have nothing but positive, hope filled, lovely, AMAZING things to say about her.

Over 2600 people that do nothing but become inspired by her.

I let 1 person get to me. 1 person who had something negative to say about her.

I let that 1 person take away all of the good in one single instant.

I let all of my hard work become undone in a moment of time.

That’s sad.

That’s pitiful.

That makes me even more angry!


I posted on facebook that I was going to take a break from the page for a bit to get my head back on straight. I do need to do that. I need to remember why I started this blog and the page.

I started it not to win everyone over. Not to become popular. Not for compliments or anything else.

I started it for Oli.

I started it so that I could share her story and maybe reach one other person going through the same thing.

I started it so that someone else out there may not feel so alone.

I started it to give other people hope. To let other people know that anything is possible if you just don’t give up. If you believe in yourself and believe in your children.

I started it so that I could show people that you don’t have to use your child’s diagnosis as any excuse NOT to do something. Use it as an inspiration to do EVERYTHING.

Thank you for reminding me of that with all of your comments tonight.

Thank you for reminding me to get my head out of my ass, and to stop feeling sorry for myself.

Thank you for reminding me that I shouldn’t let one person stop me from doing what I wanted to do with this thing.

Tonight really through me for a loop for two reasons.

One because that comment just totally caught me off guard and two because all of the support that you guys have given not just Oli, but me too.

I couldn’t believe it when I picked up my phone and saw over 100 people had commented on my status.

And every single one of them was telling me not to give up.

So I won’t.

I never have before and I sure don’t want to start now.

I never ever want it to be an option for Oli to give up just because something is difficult. I don’t ever want to set that example, so I won’t do it here. I won’t do it anywhere. I have to lead by example and one way to do that is to just keep moving forward.

Here, we put one foot in front of the other and just keep moving forward.

Some days that’s all you can do right?!

Thank you.

They said that she may never walk.

2 Sep

When Oli was born on a hot, spring night in May of 2007, I was a different person. I lived in a world where my life made sense. My life had order and structure and play dates and date nights. My life was free of specialists, prosthetic eyes, Braille, vision teachers, early intervention programs, and support groups. I had never witnessed a person look at me with pity in their eyes or felt the weight of a disability trying to drown me with its sorrow.

I was naïve.
I was over confident and cocky.
I thought I was indestructible.

I thought that I was immune to the bad and the sad things that can happen in life. Those things just didn’t happen to me. Those things happened to other people.
They happened to people that I heard talked about in whispers. They happened to people that I gossiped about on break in the cafeteria at the hospital where I worked.

“Did you hear about that mom?”
“Yeah. They said that she was a nurse. Her baby was born with a disability.”
“Yeah. I know! I couldn’t believe it!”
“I can’t believe it happened to her! She’s so nice. What is she going to do now? I don’t know what I would do if I gave birth to a special needs child.”

Suddenly I WAS that mom. Suddenly I HAD that baby.
Suddenly my life no longer had structure or play dates or date nights.
Suddenly my life was FULL of specialists, prosthetic eyes, Braille, vision teachers, early intervention programs, and support groups.

In 12 short hours my life had been turned upside down. I was drowning in sorrow and self pity and anger. I struggled with the fact that my baby had not been born in a way that I had expected. My baby had fallen somewhere well beyond my comfort level.

What was I supposed to do with a blind baby?

As the months and then the years wore on, I let my daughter live outside of what I was comfortable with. As each new diagnosis came, each one seeming to be worse than the last, I grew more and more uncomfortable with the challenges that came with raising such a special little girl. I was not confident in my abilities to parent her.

I didn’t know what I was doing! I didn’t know if I was doing this right or this wrong or this just mediocre or this just horrible!

They told me that she may never walk or talk. She may never do this or do that…

So I stayed right where I was. Sad… Angry… Alone…

I stayed there until it became so uncomfortable and so miserable that I had to change the way that I looked at our situation. I had to just accept that this is what had happened.

Instead of looking at it as unfair and unjust, I started looking at it as an opportunity. I began looking at it with serving a reason and a purpose. I stopped feeling sorry for both of us and began realizing that just because she had different abilities than many other children, they were only disabilities if I disabled her myself. Which is exactly what I had been doing by feeling sorry for her and thinking that she couldn’t do something because she was blind and couldn’t walk, or talk, and was autistic, and had seizures.

I stopped using her diagnoses as an excuse for her NOT to do something.

I started thinking about ways to make it possible for her to do everything my other kids did.

I began letting Oli do what any other child did. I just had to do it with her.

When my other two children wanted to go in the bouncy house at the park, I went in the bouncy house with her and helped her jump.

When my other two children wanted to go on the kiddie roller coaster at the fair, I went on the kiddie roller coaster with her.

When my older son wanted to go bike riding, my husband and I bought her a bike trailer that she can pedal on her own.

It’s just what we did.

So when someone suggested that Oli do a triathlon, I jumped at the opportunity.

Why not right?!

She loves to be outside and she loves the pool. I knew that she would love being out there competing with other kids and doing the things that other kids do.

I could not NOT let her do this just because of her inability to see, or swim on her own, or bike on her own, or run. We just modified her race.

I did it WITH her.

It was the most incredible experience. I kicked with her on a board for the swim, pulled her in her bike trailer for the bike and pushed her in a jogging stroller for the run.

Close to the end of the race I pulled Oli out of her bright yellow jogging stroller and whispered to her quietly “Oli? Are you ready to cross that finish line? Let’s go! All of your friends are cheering for you! You walk across that finish line!”

Oli got out of the stroller and held my hands, walking the last part of the race.

My daughter…who some said may never learn to walk…WALKED ACROSS THE FINISH LINE OF HER TRIATHLON!!

She may not have been able to tell me how it felt to hear her name over the loud speaker, to hear all of the kids and the parents cheering her on, but the smile on her face said it all.

No words were needed to describe just how she felt at that moment.

My girl was proud of herself.
2013-08-25 09.02.07


24 May

images (12)

Looky here now. I won an award y’all. Actually, if I want to get all braggity brag brag about it, I won a few awards. Thank you. Thank you. I have so many people to recognize and show my appreciation and gratitude to. (Picture me here, standing on a grand stage, wearing a flowing sparkly dress, pretty, sparkly jewelry and big poofy hair. I don’t really have poofy hair, but if I’m winning awards I need my imaginary hair to be poofy.)

I’m going to do this thing a bit whacked from how you’re technically supposed to do the Liebster Award thingy. What? I can if I want to. Yes I can. Stop arguing with me. I can. Shush.

*cue music*

It’s my blo-og and I’ll do what I waa-nt to. I’ll do what I waa-nt to. I’ll do what I waa-nt to. You would do it too if you let all your awards pile up and sucked and didn’t write a post about them and pay it forward and are trying to do it all nooooooooooow.

*Okay. Turn off the music. Let’s get on with this thing.*

I was nominated for the Liebster award by some fantastic blogger friends. Click on the names to find their pages. The Precious Princess’s guide to Bananaland. It’s why you like me. Little steps. Tried, Tested and True Mommy. You should click on them. Really. Click click click people. Good reads right there.

Rules of the Liebster Award are:

1. Tag the person or errrr….people that nominated you. Checkity check check check.
2. Answer 11 questions that they have given you.
3. List 11 random facts about yourself.
4. Nominate 11 other bloggers for the award.
5. List 11 questions for the nominees to answer.

So because I have let this award and…ahem…others….pile up, (Shut. It. I know. I know. Class A bloghole right here) I have to combine my 11 questions from all four of these lovely ladies, to answer. Which works out extremely well for me because I just get to pick 11 out of the 44 that they have given me, that I want to answer. SCORE!

Ready? Ready. Aaannnddd GO!!

1. If you could haunt someone, who would it be & why?

I would haunt my husband and my mom. My husband because it would totally freak him out. Seriously. He would flip the **** out. It makes me laugh just thinking about it. I like to laugh alive so I’m pretty sure that I would like to laugh when I’m dead. He would give me great big side ache, pee your pants laughs.
I would haunt my mom because although she might be freaked at first, she would know it was me and then it would be all good. She’d talk to me and try to feed me. She’d make my favorite snacks, leave a spot on the couch for me, turn on the TV and let me watch all my favorite shows. Although I couldn’t really eat the snacks or talk back to her, it would still be fun. I always have fun with my mom. If I die before her I hope that we can still have fun together. Mom? P.S. I’m going to haunt you.

2. If you could go back in time, what era would you visit?

Probably the 20’s. Just for the hats, the hair styles and the dresses. I know. I know. I’m a girl. What can I say?

3. What 3 things would you take on a deserted island (excluding husband and children)?

My mom. What? You didn’t say I couldn’t bring my mom. I’d bring my mom, some fabric, needles and thread. You can’t count the needles. I’d hide them in my clothes so the deserted island inspector of what you bring’er would only see my mom, fabric and thread. See? Three things. I’d be good. My mom can make anything from nothing. I’d have banana leaf dresses, kick ass palm tree hats, coconut shoes. I’d be the most stylish person ever to grace that island. A plane flying overhead would spot me in all of my fabulousness, they’d swoop down to inspect my digs and rescue us right there on the spot. Then I would be whisked away to Hollywood where I would be awarded with a Winner of Best Dressed on a Deserted Island Award. It would be awesome.

4. What is your favorite color?

Yellow. Duh. Bananas, the sun, Big Bird…All things spectacular are yellow. I just need someone to buy me a yellow corvette and my life would be complete.

5. Wine or beer?

Ummm…well? Neither. I don’t drink. Okay. Okay. I will wait here a moment while y’all wrap your head around that concept.

Nope. I don’t drink. Shhhh. It’ll be alright. Strange, wacky, foreign concept in our society, huh? I used to drink. It just didn’t work out so well for me, so now I don’t. It’s okay. I still eat chocolate and I have coffee. Thank God I have coffee!!

6. If you were to write a memoir, what title would you give it?

I’m fine, but my mommy has issues. A memoir in the making already, right?!!

7. If you were a Superhero, what power would you have?

Oh what an easy peasy question! I’d be able to stop time. For sure!!! Hello?!! What I could get done in a day if I could stop time!! Tired and kids are being annoying and all kid like? Stop time. Nap time. Want to write a great blog post, but don’t have the time? Stop time. Nap time. Oh. I mean blog time. The possibilities are endless.

8. If you could ask your future self one question, what would it be?

Soooo…How’d it all turn out?

9. Do you want to go where everyone knows your name?

I ONLY go where everyone knows my name! Seriously. You’ve never heard of me? Well that’s just down right shocking! Everyone knows me!

10. Do you like birds?

No. They have the ability to poop on my head.

11. Who is your guilty pleasure music artist?

I have so many! This is a very difficult question. Nine Inch Nails? Nirvana? Smashing Pumpkins? Stone Temple Pilots? The list is endless. I’m going with my man Trent Reznor. NAILS FOR THE WIN!!

Whew! That was a lot of questions. Now I have to give you 11 random facts about myself. Hold on people. It will soon be over. I promise.

1. I hate olives.
2. I hate cilantro.
3. If somebody kidnapped me and said I either had to eat olives and cilantro or they would cut off my finger….I would eat the olives and cilantro. What? I hate ‘em, but I need my fingers yo!!
4. I had a recurring dream of being blind, until I had Oli. Never had that dream since.
5. When I was 15 I snuck out of my house, got caught, was dragged inside my house by my dad and then jumped off the balcony to escape my furious parents. I broke my leg.
6. I’m a born swimmer. In a past life I was some kind of fish.
7. I love ghosts and ghost stories. I’ve had so many experiences that I cannot deny the existence of “something else”. I don’t know exactly what it is, but I’m convinced that it’s there.
8. I was haunted by a deceased friend of mine for 2 years.
9. I dream big. I really do believe that anything is possible.
10. My husband is my soul mate. I knew it the first time I saw him.
11. Rain makes me nervous. Every time something bad has happened in my life, it has been raining. I have a love/hate relationship with it.

Okay guys, we’re almost done. Here are my 11 nominations.

1. The Momma Bear Chronicles.
2. My Thoughts on a Page.
3. Next Life, NO Kids
4. My Dance in the Rain
5. The Zookeepers Wife
6. Mama Gone Mad
7. Chopping Potatoes
8. My Life as Lucille
9. The Sadder, but Wiser Girl
10. Folk Haven
11. Super baby Faith

Next I’m supposed to give these nominees 11 questions to answer, but you know what? I’m not going to. Nope. You know why? Because I’m a rule breaker. Yep. A rule breaker and I like it. Also because my kids are whining and saying something about food and attention and other such nonsense. Kids. Psshht. Instead I’m going to just have the nominees answer the same 11 questions that I answered above. Lame. I know. What can I tell you?

Thanks again to The Precious Princess’s guide to Bananaland, It’s why you like me, Tried Tested and True Mommy and Little Steps for the award.


Oli’s Prosthetic Eyes

6 Mar

Today Oli’s daddy drove her to Dallas to get a new pair of eyes. Every 3-6 months Oli sees her Ocularist, Randy Trawnik, and he makes her a bigger pair. Because she has anophthalmia (missing eye) on the right and microphthalmia (little eye) on the left, her entire eye structures on both sides are underdeveloped. The goal of the prosthetics are to increase them in size each time she gets new ones. It therefore stretches out the sockets and it makes the eyes bigger. Her left eye is almost at normal size due to intensive conformer therapy (I use conformers, painted conformers, and prosthetics interchangeably)

Here are some pictures of Oli’s prosthetic eyes. If anyone has any questions about them, please ask. I’d love to answer any questions you may have.

These were some of her first peg conformers. Remember “OMG! What did you stick in her eyes!”? Well, these were the awful ones prompting that response from people.


This is one of the first painted conformers that she got. Only the iris was painted because we needed to leave the rest clear just in case she had any light perception. Until we were absolutely sure that she didn’t it stayed clear. Now we know that she doesn’t see anything at all so the whole thing can be painted.


These are some of the last ones that her Ocularist in California made her before we moved to Texas. They were getting really thick because the socket was stretching so much and it became deep. The conformers had to fill most of that space so they wouldn’t fall out. Also because they still needed to push against that tissue at the back of her socket so it would continue to stretch. She eventually had a surgery last year and she got an implant in that right eye. Now the conformers don’t have to be so thick.



These last pictures are of her custom fit prosthetics made here in Dallas. Her Ocularist puts her to sleep once a year and takes molds of her eyes so he can make them fit exactly in the shape of her eye.



Logan is challenged but not limited, and he is living his life like a boss. I am just lucky enough to be along for the ride.

Mommy Got Her Groove Back

How a new mom, and wife does parenting and daily life.

Lessons from my daughter

Although all doctors agreed she would do nothing.....

I'm fine, but my Mommy has issues!

Raising a daughter with special needs.

Living on the Spectrum: The Connor Chronicles

Our family's adventures in the world of ADHD and Autism.

Parenting And Stuff

Not a "how to be a great parent" blog

don of all trades

Master of none...

The Third Glance

A peek into my (Autistic) mind

One Stitch At A Time

Making my way back in time.

Disability Watchdog

Exposing Injustices for Vulnerable People

My thoughts on a page.

Living, Laughing, Loving, Loathing.

It is Well...with my Soul

Sure, my hands are full. So is my HEART!

Chopping Potatoes

And other metaphors for motherhood

This is the Corner We Pee In

Bulletins from the Parenting Trenches...


The wacky stories of a crazy lady.

This is the place

visiting places where writers were born, lived, loved & are buried.

My Dance in the Rain

The journey of my life, my path to redefine myself and a special little girl with Cri du Chat Syndrome and Primary Ciliary Dyskenisia who changed it all.

Prego and the Loon

Pregnant and Dealing With Domestic Violence

%d bloggers like this: